Why are people so mean to each other online?

[livingdead]

Personally, it makes me happy when I don't have to partake in anger!

Just saying' Tay.

you dont have to be angry... its perfectly possible to be 'not nice' while remaining calm..you loser

 

[jamahir]

NO PDF is one of the better platforms.It has a history of its own and we have seen the most meanest threats from members here .

if we are in a off-line group, sitting face-to-face, and two members do badtameezi, we will take offense, yes?? it should be the same

if must be my more advanced age than most others here, but i don't differentiate between on-line and off-line discussion.

also, i am politically active and i cannot bear seeing callous behavior in college boys while i have spent years not playing video games and obsessing over cell phone.

Taygibay called death threats as trolling while I have practically found these and stalking as the most frustrating helplessness on the part of the members who resorted to such acts.

also true, because such members cannot contribute and they become jealous of those who can... also, the word "trolling" has become a very excusing word - people can be excused away easily by others saying - "oh, he's just trolling you"... no, threats and rudeness cannot be excused.

what say, @Taygibay ??

 

[RAMPAGE]

Have you ever retaliated against someone for being rude online? When my husband was still active duty, he knocked a few people offline, kept them offline too (he was an electronic warfare specialist with a major focus on SATCOM and EMSEC - there's no military designation for what he did).



Honestly, I'm surprised he tolerates the rampant hatred and moronic behaviors that propagate here. I'd expect a lot of people to be experiencing computer problems. Boy, oh boy, has he grown up a lot.

And you're definitely right, there are parts of the internet much worse than PDF, though it can get bad here too. I've noticed a lot of racist behaviors, nationalism is rampant too. National beefs get played out here all too often.

Who are you threatning ma'am?

Best not get in an argument with you. My internet connection is very precious to me.

you dont have to be angry... its perfectly possible to be 'not nice' while remaining calm..you loser

Hey loserguy. You think i'm nice?

 

[Spring Onion]

I love the anonymity internet provides especially in forums like this... what is the point of being nice always... lot of our adult life spent on lying to other people to remain social...


some people get burnt because they did not follow basic rules... like sharing real pics or address...
nothing wrong in it but you should be strong enough to counter if anything bad happens.

cant say about others but I did counter. for me many such threats, practically facing many things at the hands of members at first was quiet disturbing but then the same thing strengthened my belief in myself.

I really feel amused how can members take comments on forum so seriously to an extent that they harm others in reality

 

[jamahir]

People are naturally mean and full of hatred.

not me, or especially those who can be described as revolutionary leaders.

Anonymity brings out the repressed hate in a consequence-free environment.

it is the typical college male and jobnik who has made internet forums a foul place... i have never used a f-word off-line but when i go to a cafe, i find college males who have such arrogant expressions, filthy hairstyles, loud voices and the aggression of a gang of dogs... i really feel like slicing their necks... it it these males who should be banned on pdf and every proper forum on-line.

 

[Spring Onion]

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also true, because such members cannot contribute and they become jealous of those who can... also, the word "trolling" has become a very excusing word - people can be excused away easily by others saying - "oh, he's just trolling you"... no, threats and rudeness cannot be excused.

what say, @Taygibay ??

oh i personally dont think that jealousy can be a driving force with regard to enmity or anger viz a viz contribution on forums. I feel it has more to do with short temper and denial to listen to a different point of view.

I know an Indian who was with us from start on PDF and on many other forums, he hates me the most and will never let go any chance to belittle me. He is a good poster but this lack of anger management makes him sound bad most of the time. I have moved on over the years and learnt to force him to appreciate me read between the lines despite all his meanness

see you have to be a polite mean to handle the most meanest ones

 

[jamahir]

viz a viz contribution on forums.

i meant contributing to the off-line world.

see you have to be a polite mean to handle the most meanest ones

now that's a new invention of a descriptive word.

 

[Taygibay]

what say, @Taygibay ??

Well, it goes thus for me, jamahir brother :
I served and worked security so that I know too well about real life violence.
I will use force when necessary but it never made me happy to do so, it is
merely a tool that I wish humans could do without as far as I am concerned.

From this, I derive that virtual bad actions are less important. I understand and agree to both
you and Spring Onion that they are unwelcome and should be curbed but at the same time,
as in Hinduguy's answer above, they carry little weight IMHoO. And in the spirit of totally open
discussions cannot be fully expected not to happen. Many standpoints are aggressive by their
very nature to those who oppose them; I found you to express views I found harsh at times.
So, if things can be mean without intent, in reverse mean things without a chance of realization
carry less weight too?

What I'm attempting to convey is that one should differentiate between the helpless anger of poor
people with little control and little means that Spring Onion correctly described, the childish wanton
for pseudo-anger found in Hinduguy's reply ( likely with some humor to alleviate it ) and the real
threats as if someone says online that they will go to their school or work place and shoot people.

The latter is cause for worry whereas the former is Trolling of either the let's be nasty cuz it's "fun"
& possible or the I'm going to provoke for kicks type.
By comparison, IRL, I often calmed violent folks just by shoving myself in their face to force them to
react all the while blocking their options : they chose to stand down over 85% of the time when they
understand that activating the menace will see them losing the confrontation.
It comes from confidence on my part not having lost a fight yet but it also shows how overreacting
would have had me beating people up that were actually not ready to assume the consequences.

The same goes for arguments. Once I know that I won one, what does it matter to me if the crybaby
goes on spewing untruths. I guess it also comes from having a mind to balance my physical abilities.

Think of Galileo's purported "E si Muove!" He may have been condemned by the Church authorities of
the time but in history, he was vindicated twice as the Church of now let go of their intransigence on this
and acknowledged the truth and he is remembered forever as a genius whereas no one save specialized
historians knows the name of the clowns that convicted him anymore!
So that if he could stand on being right alone although having been forced into submission, why would I
fear those I have vanquished already on account of them trying to write their stupidity and shame in stone?

I find them irritating to be sure but they inspire more pity than anger once you discard them.
Tay.

 

[Spring Onion]

i meant contributing to the off-line world.

Well yes you are right to some extent here as well. In real world at least i have seen in my profession that most of the guys out of inferiority complex viz a their own viz contribution as compared to that of females resort to strange ways of meanness .
you wont believe they spread the strangest shit about you

now that's a new invention of a descriptive word.

we call it diplomacy at international level

 

[livingdead]

Who are you threatning ma'am?

Best not get in an argument with you. My internet connection is very precious to me.


Hey loserguy. You think i'm nice?

 

[RAMPAGE]

Why you no answer me these days?

 

[livingdead]

Why you no answer me these days?

when...where..

 

[RAMPAGE]

when...where..

On this thread and also on that quote thread.

 

[livingdead]

Right now and also on that quote thread.

bakwas quote tha...phir bhi thank you diya....society main rahne ke liye kya kuch karna parta hai..

 

[RAMPAGE]

bakwas quote tha...phir bhi thank you diya....society main rahne ke liye kya kuch karna parta hai..

I keeeel you!