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The life of a working woman

The writer hosts “Kal Tak” on Express News javed.chaudhry@tribune.com.pk

She had been calling for the last two days. She said that she had come from Karachi just to see me and that the meeting was very necessary. I finally agreed.

She was beautiful — like a perfect white marble Greek sculpture. And she was the most intelligent lady I have ever met. She had manners and she had read thousands of books. I was impressed. But as she disclosed her profession, I felt ashamed. However, she seemed not to care. She only wanted me to write my column on her life. A column to help other young girls of this country and their parents.

She belonged to a lower-middle class family of Karachi. Her family had descended from the Pathans, Kashmiris and Awans and she was an attractive and pretty girl. She was educated in good institutions and obtained an MBA from a reputed business college of Karachi, after which she began an internship in a bank.

A young man met her while she was working there. She said he was handsome, had a foreign degree and was rich. He lived alone in a large house in Defence, travelled in a car worth millions and his monthly credit card bill was between Rs200-300,000. She was impressed by his personality, wealth and lifestyle and soon they became close friends.

The man started spending a lot of money on her. This continued for two months. And then one day he gave her a CD that contained ‘horrible’ scenes of the two. She was shocked. The man told her that someone had shot their film and was now blackmailing him.

In a week’s time a third character appeared on the scene. He told her that she had been trapped by a gang — that the young man she had met and liked was part of the gang and that there was now no escape. She was offered ‘work’ in the profession she is currently involved in. She says she tried whatever she could to get out of it but in vain. Her parents have been told that she works in a large firm, from where she gets a salary every month.

She said that the gang was like a mafia with its headquarters in Karachi and young male and female ‘agents’ in many cities. They get beautiful girl agents admitted to colleges who make friends with pretty girls, take them to parties and introduce them to handsome boys who then trap the girls and make movies. Their agents are also active in banks, travel agencies and shopping plazas.

After I heard her story, I told her I would write my column on her. I came out to say bye to her and a seven-series BMW was waiting for her. I recognised the driver — he is the chauffeur of a VVIP.

Published in The Express Tribune, September 25th, 2010.

The life of a working woman – The Express Tribune
 
So sad for this poor woman. She made a mistake, but a very bad one. Can somebody tell me how much role our so called culture and attitude have played to ruin this woman's life?
 
She made a mistake, but a very bad one. Can somebody tell me how much role our so called culture and attitude have played to ruin this woman's life?

No culture nor any attitude contributed to this. It's plain and simple lawlessness. It happens everywhere, but our aim should be to have solid support for these type of people and a strict punishment against these things. In U.A.E, gangs such as this are punished with death- and they enforce it, too. I think this is a good model- they ruin the lives of many women, should they not then lose theirs?

Strict punishment for a severe crime!
 
but our aim should be to have solid support for these type of people and a strict punishment against these things. !

How can these victims come forward and seek help? our culture/attitude have taken shape the way that we punish the woman instead of the culprit. Perphas her father and brothers along with the locals would have been the first ones to murder her, this is the only reason she kept everything secret. thanks to her education that she at least went to the media and disclosed this secret with no name given.
 
After I heard her story, I told her I would write my column on her. I came out to say bye to her and a seven-series BMW was waiting for her. I recognised the driver — he is the chauffeur of a VVIP.

We'll find Javed Chudrary dead if he write the name of this VVIP and thats the reason he didn't.....

Cultural boundaries exist because of some reasons...She made a mistake but the punishment is much more than the mistake....Infact its only one sided punishment...No worries for that asshole...
 
How can these victims come forward and seek help? our culture/attitude have taken shape the way that we punish the woman instead of the culprit. Perphas her father and brothers along with the locals would have been the first ones to murder her, this is the only reason she kept everything secret. thanks to her education that she at least went to the media and disclosed this secret with no name given.

Yes, that would have been the case for women living in tribal areas... I don't think it would be like this in main cities. Like you said, she was educated.

Education is the key! If we put more money into education (we'll need a good government for that, so I'm waiting for next elections), people will know what is right and what is wrong- they will report what happened. The second thing is law reinforcement.
 
Yes, that would have been the case for women living in tribal areas... I don't think it would be like this in main cities. Like you said, she was educated.

Education is the key! If we put more money into education (we'll need a good government for that, so I'm waiting for next elections), people will know what is right and what is wrong- they will report what happened. The second thing is law reinforcement.

off course education is the key, we all shout about education all over the place, but besides that we need to do something about the bad sides of our culture too, one of them is the male domination side of it. dont just blame the tribal areas, they might have extreme cultures and views, but cities are not any better. go and see stories of people and partial statistics, you will see part of the whole picture.
 
1. Wrong title

2. Mr. Javed Ch said
After I heard her story, I told her I would write my column on her. I came out to say bye to her and a seven-series BMW was waiting for her. I recognised the driver — he is the chauffeur of a VVIP.


It means some influential politician is also involved so will Mr. Javed Chaudhry will appear as witness and gives details of that VVIP in the court of law??

I dont think so.

3. Many such incidents had happened which shows our society specially women needs training on these issue not to fall for strangers just because of their lifestyle and wealth.
 
off course education is the key, we all shout about education all over the place, but besides that we need to do something about the bad sides of our culture too, one of them is the male domination side of it. dont just blame the tribal areas, they might have extreme cultures and views, but cities are not any better. go and see stories of people and partial statistics, you will see part of the whole picture.

Yes, I am aware of that- infact, forced marriage almost happened to someone in my extended family (though I'll keep personal things out of a forum, so I won't say who). What I meant was that in cities, people don't just lash out and kill women for being ****ed because it is simply not their fault- though some blame is still given to the woman, for that is the fault of our society.

I cited education because a lot of mullahs think that they're allowed to suppress women because Islam tells them to. A lot of forced marriage happens in Pakistan (and I think afghanistan) even though Islam said it is strictly haram. See what I mean? education and empowerment, even if at a basic level, will make a big change.

This is why groups like the Taliban limit education severely.
 
1. Wrong title

Can you suggest a better one.. any wild guess.. :D

2. Mr. Javed Ch said


It means some influential politician is also involved so will Mr. Javed Chaudhry will appear as witness and gives details of that VVIP in the court of law??

I dont think so.

3. Many such incidents had happened which shows our society specially women needs training on these issue not to fall for strangers just because of their lifestyle and wealth.

some things are just too, too hard to resist for women.....:P

Anyways Mr Javaid Ch is not into English colums that much so he just tried his best to unearth a sad and disgusting reality of our society .. I am sure this is not the Pakistan for which hard core secular and mullah bashing groups are fighting for or may be , excess of everything is bad ... !!!
 
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This column is the translation of aUrdu column which was more eloquently written and published in the Urdu Edition Of Express Newspaper. This English column is the summary of that Urdu column,and it misses very minute and descriptive details which was written in the original column

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