By no means I am a war monger. I, for one, against any war or conflict between the two sides of the strait.
But I have to disagree what you said, with respect. What will happen if the mainland dismantles its military forces? I can assure you two things: 1st, Taiwan will declare independce without any hesitation in case that the pro-independence DPP is the ruling party. 2nd, the mainland will respond with an attack immediately. Losing military balance causes a war. Before the two sides reach any kind of agreement or consensus regarding the indepence of Taiwan, mainland China must maintain military pressure on Taiwan to make sure DPP will not declare independence.
PS, Washington does like the current military equilibrium between the mainland and Taiwan. When the balance tips away in favor of the mainland, Washington expresses concerns over security of Taiwan. When DPP plays fire, Washington labels them as trouble makers.