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Islamabad sees rise in court marriages

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Three main nikkah registrars in Islamabad district courts – Qari Imdad, Qari Ismail, and Qari Noor Ilahi Chishti – helped solemnise about 250 court marriages in 2010. But during the first eight months of 2011, they have already solemnised 240 court marriages, a number expected to cross 300 by coming December



For Mr Imdad, inflation and increasing poverty are the main reasons behind court marriages. He said parents were not paying attention towards marriages of their children, especially daughters.

“Young people are left with no option but to go for court marriage, which is very economical.”

According to him, a court marriage only costs Rs5,000. “Parents of bride and groom also accept this inexpensive marriage at a later stage.”

Apart from poverty, social media networking is also contributing to court marriages.

Akhtar Mehmood advocate, an Islamabad-based family court lawyer, said most of the couples approaching him for court marriage were users of Facebook, Twitter, HI5 or other social networking websites.

“In some cases of court marriages, girls from rural areas have chosen rich married men as their life partners.”

But he was quick to point out that love marriages are not “sustainable”, saying their success rate is lower than the arranged marriages. “Parent pressure, domestic issues and clashes force the couple to approach the court for divorce within six months.”

Linking increase in love marriages with social networking websites, Wahaj Siraj, convener Internet Service Providers Association of Pakistan (ISP), said during the last one year, the number of internet users has increased by 10 per cent in Rawalpindi and Islamabad.

“Currently total number of internet users in Islamabad and Rawlpindi is 500,000 and it is gradually increasing.”

According to him, the young people spend most of their time on social networking websites where they not only make new friends but also find partners.

Barrister Afzal Hussain, another family court lawyer, supports the notion that due to social media networking, love marriages are on the rise but added that the couples face threats, registration of abduction cases and lengthy litigation. “In most of the cases, angry relatives of bride lodge case of her abduction against the groom and the couple faces lengthy litigation.” Barrister Hussain said sometime the wife is forced to record statement against the husband, putting the “innocent man behind the bar”.

Recently the chief justice of Islamabad High Court (IHC) has quashed an FIR registered against Saima Shaheen and her husband, Muhammad Ikram.

They pleaded before the court that they are lawfully married couple, rejecting the FIR registered with Shahzad Town police claiming that they are involved in an illicit relationship. The case was registered against the couple by Saima`s uncle, Tahir Mehmood. She said after the marriage in February this year her brothers with the help of police were harassing them.

In another case, Ayesha Aziz and her husband Shaharyar Ali also approached the Lahore High Court (LHC) for quashing the FIR registered against them. Relatives of Ayesha got registered the FIR against her husband under section 365-B in New Town police station of Rawalpindi. The court`s Rawalpindi bench had directed the police to quash the FIR.

Barrister Hussain suggests some amendments in the existing law to protect the couples. He also proposed penalty for registration of fake FIRs. “To discourage this trend, litigation expenses should be recovered from those who lodge fake FIRs.”
 
that is not a big change to be fair, the big change is in the divorce rate, which over all have gone to 2.8% from 0.9% in 20 years... with a exponential increase in last 5 years...
 
Why does court marriage cost Rs 5000?


What all does this cost cover?

i Don't know how much it cost but Nikah can be done without any cost ... hell yeah Dulha can himself make Nikah infront of witnesses ( requires reading of some ayats ) i personally don't know the proceedure ... Its a Sunnah .
 
We need an Islamic Marriage Revolution in Pakistan, sort of what these courts are doing, but on a much grander scale. What could be so simple as two people saying orally I marry you has been turned into a whole ensemble of rites, dowry, family/tribe assimilation and what not, that we need proactive and forceful action.

As a protest measure against society let me invite you to do a reflexive-marriage i.e. you declare you've married yourself and sign a paper twice.
 
i Don't know how much it cost but Nikah can be done without any cost ... hell yeah Dulha can himself make Nikah infront of witnesses ( requires reading of some ayats ) i personally don't know the proceedure ... Its a Sunnah .

Well the aayaat are more of a reminder on the subject matter IMO, the only indispensable is the niyyah - intention - and you're good. In fact, the barebones requirements in fiqh e Hanafi even exclude the witnesses in particular cases! No excuse for being her boyfriend when becoming the husband is no harder!

AZ guftam shuneedah ke you're tying the knot soon too, I'd suggest you do a read on the subject. It's veritably eye-opening and amazingly deep.
 
i Don't know how much it cost but Nikah can be done without any cost ... hell yeah Dulha can himself make Nikah infront of witnesses ( requires reading of some ayats ) i personally don't know the proceedure ... Its a Sunnah .

by law of the land you are required to get Nikkah registered from a registered Molvi sahib, otherwise aghwa ka case puri family per dalta hai bacho :P
 
Well the aayaat are more of a reminder on the subject matter IMO, the only indispensable is the niyyah - intention - and you're good. In fact, the barebones requirements in fiqh e Hanafi even exclude the witnesses in particular cases! No excuse for being her boyfriend when becoming the husband is no harder!

AZ guftam shuneedah ke you're tying the knot soon too, I'd suggest you do a read on the subject. It's veritably eye-opening and amazingly deep.


3 years ago when my cousin was getting married , at that time i go with him to Imam sahab about taking time for Nikah ceremony so imam sahab was saying to my cousin that why don't you do it yourself ( my Cousin is hafiz Quran & that imam sahab is also his teacher ) , we were all laughing like crazy , & we say that " gher waale maar daale gein , koi nahi maane ga hamaari baat " .... ;)
 
I dont like the sound of it.
Islamabad is known for its 'high class' and 'poshness'. Which means the youth out there, are all spoilt brats.

They are too immature to make decisions, I know some who have ran from the home to get married to their boyfriends.. and in a case, his girlfriend..Was an officer in the army too..

There must be laws imposed, to have parents from both sides too. These kids have always lived a free life without any limitations from family, and dont know much about the world and life.
 
no , in that case Witnesses will come into play .... :P

lagta hai "polace" se wasta nahi para, anyways, on a serious note, what really happens in 80+ percent cases, the girl testifies that she was kidnapped and forcefully got into Nikkah, and _________. phir kiya witnesses tou kia gher walay....... seriously, its a very dangerous option, not only for the person but also for his family...
 
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They are too immature to make decisions, ...

There must be laws imposed, to have parents from both sides too. These kids have always lived a free life without any limitations from family, and dont know much about the world and life.

People mess up their whole afterlives all the time, this is a mere marriage! You can't fix everybody's lives. Better be content that these people are living somewhere married than not.
 
I dont like the sound of it.
Islamabad is known for its 'high class' and 'poshness'. Which means the youth out there, are all spoilt brats.

They are too immature to make decisions, I know some who have ran from the home to get married to their boyfriends.. and in a case, his girlfriend..Was an officer in the army too..

There must be laws imposed, to have parents from both sides too. These kids have always lived a free life without any limitations from family, and dont know much about the world and life.

If you're in love with somebody, and it's either you chose the life you'd love, or a life forced on you that you're going to be unhappy for the rest of, I'd chose the former.
 
Arrange marriages really screw up people and young generation. Love is the way to go..bring on the revolt.! I have never seen an arrage marriage couple living happy unless one submits to the domination of other. Most of the time its is just chal chalo life guzaro which really screws up the kids.
 

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